Tag Archive: Victim Support

BeLEAVEing – The Little Guidebook on Domestic Violence

BeLEAVEing - Safely Leaving Abusive Relationships...a guidebook for victims

Are you BeLIEVing, or will you BeLEAVEing? Have you ever wished you had a small guidebook that would give you the information to recognize potential danger, safely plan an escape or know how to reach out to a friend or loved one who is a victim of domestic violence? It’s on its way. BeLEAVEing is…

Are There Levels Of Domestic Violence

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Sometimes both those who are knowledgeable of domestic violence and those who still have a lot to learn about the subject contemplate if there are various levels of domestic violence. For a long time I actually vacillated between confusion and guilt. I was verbally abused. I was emotionally abused. Later, I was grabbed by my…

Domestic Violence: Why Doesn’t She Leave?

Time to leave?

Sometimes I feel we have belabored the question, “Why doesn’t she leave?” But, it just seems this question will never go away. Quite personally, I find myself being annoyed and put off by the fact it is still asked so frequently, especially by those who have very little if any understanding of domestic violence. Victims…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

It was an accident

Given enough time, a victim of domestic violence is almost certain to hear, “It was an accident.” That could easily be part of the honeymoon phase that occurs in abusive relationships and domestic violence. Most of us know by now that domestic violence is truly a matter of power and control, rather than anger management….

SEXUAL ASSAULT IN THE MILITARY-A FORMER VICTIM’S POINT OF VIEW

Ongoing sexual assault in the military of our United States? Who knew? How long has this been occurring, and what’s being done to stop it? Our nation has felt vulnerable and abused over the past weeks with the Boston Marathon bombing. Now we have breaking news that Lieutenant Colonel Jeffrey Krusinski, Chief of Sexual Assault…

Keep a Journal of Domestic Violence

It can be helpful to keep a journal if you are a victim of domestic violence. If you decide to keep a journal about any domestic violence or partner abuse you experience, the first priority must be your safety. If you have an inkling of journaling on a computer that may be hacked, don’t do…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – NOW Use Your Safety Plan

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Well, let’s get ready, it’s time to use your safety plan you’ve been working on. You have finally decided it is time to leave. You want out of the abuse, the verbal and emotional abuse, being roughed up, or God forbid, the black eyes, bruised arms and heart-racing fear.  Where do you start? What do…

A SAFETY PLAN IS A PLAN TO LEAVE SAFELY

When a victim of domestic violence makes that life-altering choice to leave, it should never be done without a safety plan in place and ready to use. Because they are so vitally important, I have decided to spend some time, and posts, on what safety plans are all about, how to develop one and then putting…

Answers for Victims of Abuse

National DV Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)

Do we have answers for victims of abuse? They all have questions. They are all seeking answers, but what do we have to offer them? I suppose it could be considered humorous that the top search engine term on my blog site was once “pastor cartoon.” I still have not figured that one out for…

Others Control Us – How Do We Stop Them?

How Do People Control Us?

When others control us, it’s amazing the power one person can have over another. What do we do when we find ourselves in a position of being controlled by others? When others control us, they can exercise certain levels of power over another’s emotional well being. Others control us through money, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation…