Tag Archive: Psychological abuse

Others Control Us – How Do We Stop Them?

How Do People Control Us?

When others control us, it’s amazing the power one person can have over another. What do we do when we find ourselves in a position of being controlled by others? When others control us, they can exercise certain levels of power over another’s emotional well being. Others control us through money, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation…

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE

What is financial abuse? Who controls the money?

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE? What is financial abuse? Many doubt such a thing exists. After all, how can you abuse someone with money? Throw it at them? I think that’s considered a good thing, rather than bad. Financial abuse is an important element of domestic violence. Until I began acting as an advocate, taking courses,…

GETTING PAST THE ABUSE

Breaking the ties, getting past the abuse

GETTING PAST THE ABUSE - It is a most common thing to hear from former victims of domestic violence that one of their biggest challenges is getting past the abuse. It’s not as simple as making a decision one day and waking the next to find you are free from the victim mentality. For most former…

THINGS ABUSERS SAY

Words hurt - and lead to further abuse

THINGS ABUSERS SAY – All victims of domestic abuse are aware of more terms used as verbal abuse than one could possibly count.   My goal here is to reach out to current victims of domestic violence, especially those who may not think or recognize they truly are victims of domestic violence. Potentially, the most ironic…

WHAT ARE SIGNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

Let’s start with the not so obvious issue of those women who come to me and say, “How do I know if I am a victim of domestic violence?” Yes, there are those out there who are uncertain of the fact if they are or are not a victim of domestic violence. To those I…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE ARE PROGRESSIVE

It is not uncommon to hear a victim of verbal or emotional abuse say, “Well, it’s not domestic violence. He’s never hit me.” Really? Do you think demeaning or threatening words don’t cause damage, too? There were many times I stood listening to the words spewing from his mouth, telling me how useless, stupid, fat…

When Others Try to Control Us

It’s amazing the power one person can have over another, and how they can exercise certain levels of control over another’s emotional wellbeing. Emotions can be wrecked and hearts can be broken so easily. Over the past few weeks I have had conversations with various people who shared their observations of the inhumanity of mankind…

IT COULD BE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IF . . .

  The perpetrator is abusing drugs or alcohol, and especially if it is escalating. There is a threat of taking the children away from you, and proving you an unfit mother. The family pet is being abused, or there are threats of it happening. You find yourself being verbally belittled, emotionally abused or ordered around…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND THE FAMILY PET

I didn’t get it when I was enduring many years of verbal and emotional abuse that whenever the threat was made to kill or harm our dog, it was a predictable red flag that domestic violence was present and at work in my life. It was also one of the primary reasons I chose to…

A Survivor of Domestic Violence Looks Back—But He Told Me He Loved Me

I was young, naïve, gullible and needy. I wanted someone to love me. I had been sexually abused as a child, and considered myself damaged goods. Barely 18, I walked down the aisle of the church to marry someone because he told me he loved me, and that nobody else would want me. It was…