Tag Archive: overcoming domestic violence

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

It was an accident

Given enough time, a victim of domestic violence is almost certain to hear, “It was an accident.” That could easily be part of the honeymoon phase that occurs in abusive relationships and domestic violence. Most of us know by now that domestic violence is truly a matter of power and control, rather than anger management….

Keep a Journal of Domestic Violence

It can be helpful to keep a journal if you are a victim of domestic violence. If you decide to keep a journal about any domestic violence or partner abuse you experience, the first priority must be your safety. If you have an inkling of journaling on a computer that may be hacked, don’t do…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – NOW Use Your Safety Plan

It always starts with  just one step

Well, let’s get ready, it’s time to use your safety plan you’ve been working on. You have finally decided it is time to leave. You want out of the abuse, the verbal and emotional abuse, being roughed up, or God forbid, the black eyes, bruised arms and heart-racing fear.  Where do you start? What do…

A SAFETY PLAN IS A PLAN TO LEAVE SAFELY

When a victim of domestic violence makes that life-altering choice to leave, it should never be done without a safety plan in place and ready to use. Because they are so vitally important, I have decided to spend some time, and posts, on what safety plans are all about, how to develop one and then putting…

Intimate Partner Violence: Straight or Gay – What is IPV?

DV poster with male face

What is IPV? What do those letters stand for? What does it mean? Are you wondering what it has to do with domestic violence? I.P.V. is the abbreviation for Intimate Partner Violence. The definition of IPV, or intimate partner violence, as shared by the CDC is this: Intimate partner violence—also called domestic violence, battering, or spouse…

Answers for Victims of Abuse

National DV Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)

Do we have answers for victims of abuse? They all have questions. They are all seeking answers, but what do we have to offer them? I suppose it could be considered humorous that the top search engine term on my blog site was once “pastor cartoon.” I still have not figured that one out for…

ADULTERESS EXECUTED BY TALIBAN

Woman executed as an adulteress

Why would a woman be accused and convicted of the “crime” of being an adulteress? Well, an accused adulteress was recently executed, and the Taliban is being credited for carrying out her sentence of death. Recently, a news report of the Taliban being credited for the execution of an adulteress broke from Afghanistan. The story does…

FORGIVE MY ABUSER

Freedom is found in forgiveness

FORGIVE MY ABUSER WAIT! Forgive my abuser? Are you kidding me? I’m still right in the midst of being abused on a daily basis. How do you expect me to forgive my abuser? To forgive my abuser does not mean to forget the abuse he/she dished out. Jesus said, “To be forgiven, you must first…

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE

What is financial abuse? Who controls the money?

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE? What is financial abuse? Many doubt such a thing exists. After all, how can you abuse someone with money? Throw it at them? I think that’s considered a good thing, rather than bad. Financial abuse is an important element of domestic violence. Until I began acting as an advocate, taking courses,…

Ides of March

Choosing to change myself attracted who I desired, not what I used to be!

IDES OF MARCH I’ll bet you are wondering why the short blonde has decided to blog about the Ides of March when Easter is so close upon us. Shouldn’t I be talking about bunnies, eggs, crosses and resurrections? Well, this is a sort of resurrection story.  So, why choose now to talk about such an unimportant…