It is perhaps the most common topic raised by those who don’t understand domestic violence – why women stay in abusive relationships. I have even heard it said, “Well, she must like it, or else she’d just leave.” Really? Who enjoys being emotionally and verbally denigrated, abused and oftentimes battered or beaten? Women stay in abusive30

It is important we all reach a level of understanding domestic violence. Amazingly, in spite of the expansion of awareness, many are still asking, “What is domestic violence?” One definition is: A pattern of abusive behavior in an intimate or romantic relationship where one person chooses to control the relationship through the use of force,30

Well, let’s get ready, it’s time to use your safety plan you’ve been working on. You have finally decided it is time to leave. You want out of the abuse, the verbal and emotional abuse, being roughed up, or God forbid, the black eyes, bruised arms and heart-racing fear.  Where do you start? What do30

When a victim of domestic violence makes that life-altering choice to leave, it should never be done without a safety plan in place and ready to use. Because they are so vitally important, I have decided to spend some time, and posts, on what safety plans are all about, how to develop one and then putting30

Do we have answers for victims of abuse? They all have questions. They are all seeking answers, but what do we have to offer them? I suppose it could be considered humorous that the top search engine term on my blog site was once “pastor cartoon.” I still have not figured that one out for30

VICTIM SERVICES PRACTITIONER What is a Victim Services Practitioner? I wasn’t sure. I just knew I wanted to be one. What does it take to become a Victim Services Practitioner? The beginning for me was a 40-hour course presented by the Attorney General of my state, the State of Florida. For five days, from 8:0030

The American public, for the most part, have the impression our Vietnam vets are all home, and that war is long over, right? Yeah, well, you may find the rest of this blog post surprising at best, and alarming at the very least. See if you really know what has become of far too many30

MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE What about male victims of domestic violence? Current statistics tell us that 1 out of every 4, and perhaps as many as 1 in every 3 women will, at some time during her life, be a victim of domestic violence. The statistics for male victims of domestic violence run the30

IDES OF MARCH I’ll bet you are wondering why the short blonde has decided to blog about the Ides of March when Easter is so close upon us. Shouldn’t I be talking about bunnies, eggs, crosses and resurrections? Well, this is a sort of resurrection story.  So, why choose now to talk about such an unimportant30

THINGS ABUSERS SAY – All victims of domestic abuse are aware of more terms used as verbal abuse than one could possibly count.   My goal here is to reach out to current victims of domestic violence, especially those who may not think or recognize they truly are victims of domestic violence. Potentially, the most ironic30