Tag Archive: Domestic violence

BeLEAVEing – The Little Guidebook on Domestic Violence

BeLEAVEing - Safely Leaving Abusive Relationships...a guidebook for victims

Are you BeLIEVing, or will you BeLEAVEing? Have you ever wished you had a small guidebook that would give you the information to recognize potential danger, safely plan an escape or know how to reach out to a friend or loved one who is a victim of domestic violence? It’s on its way. BeLEAVEing is…

Domestic Violence And Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse - broken spirit, invisible scars

Domestic violence and emotional abuse—emotional abuse and domestic violence: You can’t have one without the other. It is a well-tested statistic that tells us all domestic violence begins with emotional and/or verbal abuse. No exceptions. There are far too many who question if they are actually a victim of domestic violence. Their reasoning is they…

RAY RICE-TIME TO MOVE FORWARD

Ray & Janay RIce with their daughter - Time to Move Forward

Ray Rice - We have been inundated with reports, interviews, survivors sharing their story and repeatedly asked, “Why Didn’t She Leave?” The time comes when, as important and good as it is to analyze why a victim of domestic violence stays in an abusive relationship, we simply must stop spinning our wheels asking the same question…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN BELL, FLORIDA

Grandfather kills daughter, 6 grandchildren, then himself

Just outside the middle of nowhere there has been domestic violence in Bell, Florida. Few even know Bell, Florida exists. The total population is 350, about as many who would be in an average-sized church sanctuary this Sunday. Now the entire nation is aware of a tiny town in Florida called Bell. You expect to…

RAY RICE-ASKING FOR PRIVACY

Janay and Ray Rice media interview

Janay Rice, wife of Ray Rice, posted on her social network, asking for privacy as they deal with the domestic violence that took place in an elevator months ago. While I fully understand that they do need a modicum of personal privacy during this time, a measure of reality came to me. Recently, I personally…

The NFL, Ray Rice and Domestic Violence

JUST DO IT?

The entire nation is abuzz with the news reports regarding Ray Rice and domestic violence. Only days after Ray Rice was called on the carpet for punching out his fiancée, Janay Palmer (now Rice), another NFL player, Ray McDonald, was arrested for domestic violence. The Ray Rice and domestic violence incident had occurred months prior,…

Are There Levels Of Domestic Violence

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Sometimes both those who are knowledgeable of domestic violence and those who still have a lot to learn about the subject contemplate if there are various levels of domestic violence. For a long time I actually vacillated between confusion and guilt. I was verbally abused. I was emotionally abused. Later, I was grabbed by my…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

It was an accident

Given enough time, a victim of domestic violence is almost certain to hear, “It was an accident.” That could easily be part of the honeymoon phase that occurs in abusive relationships and domestic violence. Most of us know by now that domestic violence is truly a matter of power and control, rather than anger management….

WHY WOMEN STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

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It is perhaps the most common topic raised by those who don’t understand domestic violence – why women stay in abusive relationships. I have even heard it said, “Well, she must like it, or else she’d just leave.” Really? Who enjoys being emotionally and verbally denigrated, abused and oftentimes battered or beaten? Women stay in abusive…

UNDERSTANDING Domestic Violence

It is important we all reach a level of understanding domestic violence. Amazingly, in spite of the expansion of awareness, many are still asking, “What is domestic violence?” One definition is: A pattern of abusive behavior in an intimate or romantic relationship where one person chooses to control the relationship through the use of force,…