Tag Archive: Abusive relationships

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE

What is financial abuse? Who controls the money?

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE? What is financial abuse? Many doubt such a thing exists. After all, how can you abuse someone with money? Throw it at them? I think that’s considered a good thing, rather than bad. Financial abuse is an important element of domestic violence. Until I began acting as an advocate, taking courses,…

GETTING PAST THE ABUSE

Breaking the ties, getting past the abuse

GETTING PAST THE ABUSE - It is a most common thing to hear from former victims of domestic violence that one of their biggest challenges is getting past the abuse. It’s not as simple as making a decision one day and waking the next to find you are free from the victim mentality. For most former…

THINGS ABUSERS SAY

Words hurt - and lead to further abuse

THINGS ABUSERS SAY – All victims of domestic abuse are aware of more terms used as verbal abuse than one could possibly count.   My goal here is to reach out to current victims of domestic violence, especially those who may not think or recognize they truly are victims of domestic violence. Potentially, the most ironic…

WHAT MOTIVATED JOSH POWELL TO KILL HIS SONS?

What motivated Josh Powell?

WHAT MOTIVATED JOSH POWELL? As I awoke to news reports this week, I was crestfallen to hear that Josh Powell, accused of murdering his wife, had taken the lives of himself and his two young sons by setting his house afire. What motivated Josh Powell? Why did he do this? He had executed the perfect…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: WHAT IS THE MEANING OF “IPV”?

Intimate Partner Abuse -

Have you ever heard of IPV, and wondered what it means? I.P.V. is the abbreviation for Intimate Partner Violence. Are you wondering what it has to do with domestic violence? The definition of IPV, as shared by the CDC is: Intimate partner violence—also called domestic violence, battering, or spouse abuse: Violence committed by a spouse,…

WHY IS IT DIFFICULT TO IDENTIFY VICTIMS OF ABUSE?

Whether it is victimization by sexual abuse or domestic violence, it’s not always easy to pick out the victims. My book, Orange Blossom Wishes, was released in 2008. Since that time I am still asked on a consistent basis by many who knew me, some very close friends, “How did we not know? How did…

WHAT ARE SIGNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

Let’s start with the not so obvious issue of those women who come to me and say, “How do I know if I am a victim of domestic violence?” Yes, there are those out there who are uncertain of the fact if they are or are not a victim of domestic violence. To those I…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—IS FORGIVENESS A REQUIREMENT?

All of my life I have been told I am required, as a Christian, to “forgive and forget,” but recently learned “forgive and forget” were not the words of the Christ. Granted, it is clearly stated in red letters, “To be forgiven, you must first forgive,” but where is the forgetting part?  I am open…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—Developing a Safety Plan 101

Simplification is usually the best way to go. So, you are not contemplating leaving just yet, but you are consistently in fear, being verbally abused and beginning to think this is not the way you want the rest of your life to go. You have options and alternatives. For those who read this blog regularly,…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: HOW DO I AVOID AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?

BECOME THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT TO ATTRACT! I used to repeat this phrase over and over again to the group I led as a Director of Singles Ministry—Be the kind of person you want to attract. You will attract the kind of person you ARE, not the kind of person you desire. I…