Tag Archive: Abusive relationships

Answers for Victims of Abuse

National DV Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)

Do we have answers for victims of abuse? They all have questions. They are all seeking answers, but what do we have to offer them? I suppose it could be considered humorous that the top search engine term on my blog site was once “pastor cartoon.” I still have not figured that one out for…

Others Control Us – How Do We Stop Them?

How Do People Control Us?

When others control us, it’s amazing the power one person can have over another. What do we do when we find ourselves in a position of being controlled by others? When others control us, they can exercise certain levels of power over another’s emotional well being. Others control us through money, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation…

FORGIVE MY ABUSER

Freedom is found in forgiveness

FORGIVE MY ABUSER WAIT! Forgive my abuser? Are you kidding me? I’m still right in the midst of being abused on a daily basis. How do you expect me to forgive my abuser? To forgive my abuser does not mean to forget the abuse he/she dished out. Jesus said, “To be forgiven, you must first…

IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT

Love is... not painful or abusive or angry...

IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT! It’s all your fault. That black eye? It’s all your fault. He has a drinking problem? It’s all your fault. After all, that is what he tells you, time and time again—right? If you’d just keep your mouth shut and not talk back, you would not get hit or called the worst…

MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Women as the abuser?

MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE What about male victims of domestic violence? Current statistics tell us that 1 out of every 4, and perhaps as many as 1 in every 3 women will, at some time during her life, be a victim of domestic violence. The statistics for male victims of domestic violence run the…

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE

What is financial abuse? Who controls the money?

WHAT IS FINANCIAL ABUSE? What is financial abuse? Many doubt such a thing exists. After all, how can you abuse someone with money? Throw it at them? I think that’s considered a good thing, rather than bad. Financial abuse is an important element of domestic violence. Until I began acting as an advocate, taking courses,…

GETTING PAST THE ABUSE

Breaking the ties, getting past the abuse

GETTING PAST THE ABUSE - It is a most common thing to hear from former victims of domestic violence that one of their biggest challenges is getting past the abuse. It’s not as simple as making a decision one day and waking the next to find you are free from the victim mentality. For most former…

THINGS ABUSERS SAY

Words hurt - and lead to further abuse

THINGS ABUSERS SAY – All victims of domestic abuse are aware of more terms used as verbal abuse than one could possibly count.   My goal here is to reach out to current victims of domestic violence, especially those who may not think or recognize they truly are victims of domestic violence. Potentially, the most ironic…

WHAT MOTIVATED JOSH POWELL TO KILL HIS SONS?

What motivated Josh Powell?

WHAT MOTIVATED JOSH POWELL? As I awoke to news reports this week, I was crestfallen to hear that Josh Powell, accused of murdering his wife, had taken the lives of himself and his two young sons by setting his house afire. What motivated Josh Powell? Why did he do this? He had executed the perfect…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: WHAT IS THE MEANING OF “IPV”?

Intimate Partner Abuse -

Have you ever heard of IPV, and wondered what it means? I.P.V. is the abbreviation for Intimate Partner Violence. Are you wondering what it has to do with domestic violence? The definition of IPV, as shared by the CDC is: Intimate partner violence—also called domestic violence, battering, or spouse abuse: Violence committed by a spouse,…