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Are we living with purpose? Great question, huh? But, wouldn’t it make sense to know just what our purpose is before we try to give an answer? Some are probably wondering what this has to do with our emotional wellbeing. In a word—everything.

I floundered for many years, halfway knowing I had a reason for being here, that there was something  especially designed and/or designated for me to accomplish during my lifetime, but not really quite certain what it was. The Thesaurus says “purpose” also means “reason” or “explanation.” So, what is our reason for being here? What are we motivated to accomplish? How can we explain why we were ever born? As I have said innumerable times, “God don’t make junk.” I know it’s grammatically atrocious, but the little magnet on the fridge that stayed before my eyes bearing that message got me through many years of hopelessness, abuse and violence. It gave me that tiny little thread of hope to believe I was not God’s single mistake, because He doesn’t make one. That little ditty reassured me that He didn’t make one when He decided it was time for my conception.

When we make that trip through the birth canal and out of the womb, our life begins, and the potential to fulfill our purpose is set before us. As we grow older and develop cognitive abilities, we are free to make choices—choices that will forever impact how we fulfill the purpose we have available to us. Unfortunately, some choose perversion, others choose self-destruction. Many, like me, take most of their life to come to a realization as to why we are on this big blue marble, and finally follow that passion that I am convinced was planted as a seed within our spirit long before we could ever understand any part of it.

Then we have our destiny. Some call it fate or kismet, others see it as a divine plan. I believe when we find our purpose and doggedly stay on the path where it carries us, we are headed into our destiny, the place we were meant to arrive at the end of the journey—that journey called “life.” When we look back on our life, we should see that our destiny brought us to an acceptable final destination.

Focusing on our circumstances will throw up roadblocks and dig potholes every time. My aunt touched more lives the few years she battled ovarian cancer than during all her preceding years of life. She kept a positive attitude, encouraged others and was a woman of immovable faith—not just for herself, but others as well. Lou Gehrig took on ALS and as a result of his battle with that deplorable disease, more research was accomplished than there would have been if he had not stepped forward. Setting aside whether you agree with his personal viewpoints, consider Stephen Hawking. Some would call him a vegetable, but he has brought so much to the study of many sorts of scientific studies without being able to speak a word, point a finger or take a single step. I see “circumstances” as the ditches on the side of the path to our destiny, and I do not want to fall into the ditch, but rather, keep on the path and be sure that when I leave Earth, maybe things will be a little better for my having been here.

Want to improve your emotional wellbeing? My strongest suggestion is to figure out why you are here, what you are to accomplish while you are here, and set about doing it. Here’s a big hint: Follow your heart, seek after your passion. That’s the seed I mentioned earlier that was planted in your spirit. You see, purpose without passion is just doing something for the sake of doing it. Our passion will drive us to accomplish something with excellence, and make a difference for the better while we are walking our path. Nothing is better for your emotional wellbeing than knowing you served a part of your purpose on any given day. Who knows? If we all seek to fulfill the true reason we are here, we may cooperatively make this a better world! It’s sure worth a try.

Carolyn is an advocate for sexual/domestic violence and assault awareness, also focusing on child sexual abuse. She is a Life Direction & Empowerment Coach, working with victims and survivors of molestation, sexual assault, domestic violence or spousal abuse, and bringing training to organizations seeking to help victims. Listen to Carolyn’s interview with Cynthia Brennen, on “Help, Hope & Healing.” Visit her Everyday Health blog on Emotional Wellbeing or her website at orangeblossomwishes.com.

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