Category Archives: EMOTIONAL WELLBEING

Emotional wellbeing

WHY WOMEN STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

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It is perhaps the most common topic raised by those who don’t understand domestic violence – why women stay in abusive relationships. I have even heard it said, “Well, she must like it, or else she’d just leave.” Really? Who enjoys being emotionally and verbally denigrated, abused and oftentimes battered or beaten? Women stay in abusive…

UNDERSTANDING Domestic Violence

It is important we all reach a level of understanding domestic violence. Amazingly, in spite of the expansion of awareness, many are still asking, “What is domestic violence?” One definition is: A pattern of abusive behavior in an intimate or romantic relationship where one person chooses to control the relationship through the use of force,…

Answers for Victims of Abuse

National DV Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)

Do we have answers for victims of abuse? They all have questions. They are all seeking answers, but what do we have to offer them? I suppose it could be considered humorous that the top search engine term on my blog site was once “pastor cartoon.” I still have not figured that one out for…

Others Control Us – How Do We Stop Them?

How Do People Control Us?

When others control us, it’s amazing the power one person can have over another. What do we do when we find ourselves in a position of being controlled by others? When others control us, they can exercise certain levels of power over another’s emotional well being. Others control us through money, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation…

Violence in America

Why? Why? Why?

Why is there so much violence in America these days? I get that question a lot now. Every time there is a murder/suicide relating to a domestic violence report, someone asks, “Why is there so much violence in America?” We had a local report recently share of a toddler being thrown into a pool by…

We Learned from Jerry Sandusky

Coach, mentor, pedophile?

Now that the trial is over and the coach has been sentenced, we must consider what we learned from Jerry Sandusky. The trial was extremely high profile. Many asked why Coach Sandusky chose not to testify in his own behalf. His lawyers insisted that not take place. Here’s a blonde take on that decision.  Just…

FORGIVE MY ABUSER

Freedom is found in forgiveness

FORGIVE MY ABUSER WAIT! Forgive my abuser? Are you kidding me? I’m still right in the midst of being abused on a daily basis. How do you expect me to forgive my abuser? To forgive my abuser does not mean to forget the abuse he/she dished out. Jesus said, “To be forgiven, you must first…

MAYA ANGELOU

MAYA ANGELOU  Maya Angelou… What do I, a short Caucasian blonde daughter of the South have in common with Maya Angelou?  When I think of Maya Angelou, I think of how I love her work, her smile, the twinkle in her eyes and her manner of presence. It seems every time she speaks or puts…

IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT

Love is... not painful or abusive or angry...

IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT! It’s all your fault. That black eye? It’s all your fault. He has a drinking problem? It’s all your fault. After all, that is what he tells you, time and time again—right? If you’d just keep your mouth shut and not talk back, you would not get hit or called the worst…

VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Words hurt - and lead to further abuse

VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE—So, are they truly part of domestic violence? And if they are, what part do they play? As a former victim, now a strong survivor and thriving advocate, I can attest to the fact that almost without exception, every incident of domestic violence will begin with verbal and emotional abuse.   How…