Category Archives: EMOTIONAL WELLBEING

Emotional wellbeing

Domestic Violence And Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse - broken spirit, invisible scars

Domestic violence and emotional abuse—emotional abuse and domestic violence: You can’t have one without the other. It is a well-tested statistic that tells us all domestic violence begins with emotional and/or verbal abuse. No exceptions. There are far too many who question if they are actually a victim of domestic violence. Their reasoning is they…

RAY RICE-TIME TO MOVE FORWARD

Ray & Janay RIce with their daughter - Time to Move Forward

Ray Rice – We have been inundated with reports, interviews, survivors sharing their story and repeatedly asked, “Why Didn’t She Leave?” The time comes when, as important and good as it is to analyze why a victim of domestic violence stays in an abusive relationship, we simply must stop spinning our wheels asking the same question…

Are There Levels Of Domestic Violence

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Sometimes both those who are knowledgeable of domestic violence and those who still have a lot to learn about the subject contemplate if there are various levels of domestic violence. For a long time I actually vacillated between confusion and guilt. I was verbally abused. I was emotionally abused. Later, I was grabbed by my…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

It was an accident

Given enough time, a victim of domestic violence is almost certain to hear, “It was an accident.” That could easily be part of the honeymoon phase that occurs in abusive relationships and domestic violence. Most of us know by now that domestic violence is truly a matter of power and control, rather than anger management….

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – SHE GOT WHAT SHE DESERVED

Did she get what she deserved?

During a conversation earlier this week, I was shocked and amazed to hear another person make the statement, “She just got what she deserved. She should have kept her legs closed.” At the time, we were discussing the incarceration of someone who had been found guilty of the double murder of his wife and her…

A Rise in Domestic Violence During the Holidays

Santa knows DV doesn't take a holiday.

It’s difficult to celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa knowing there is a rise in domestic violence during the holidays. While many imagine sugar plum fairies dancing in their dreams, others are seeing stars from blows to their head. This “version” of Twas the Night Before Christmas gives us a true picture of what it’s really like to…

WHY WOMEN STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

picture-women leaving2

It is perhaps the most common topic raised by those who don’t understand domestic violence – why women stay in abusive relationships. I have even heard it said, “Well, she must like it, or else she’d just leave.” Really? Who enjoys being emotionally and verbally denigrated, abused and oftentimes battered or beaten? Women stay in abusive…

UNDERSTANDING Domestic Violence

It is important we all reach a level of understanding domestic violence. Amazingly, in spite of the expansion of awareness, many are still asking, “What is domestic violence?” One definition is: A pattern of abusive behavior in an intimate or romantic relationship where one person chooses to control the relationship through the use of force,…

Answers for Victims of Abuse

National DV Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)

Do we have answers for victims of abuse? They all have questions. They are all seeking answers, but what do we have to offer them? I suppose it could be considered humorous that the top search engine term on my blog site was once “pastor cartoon.” I still have not figured that one out for…

Others Control Us – How Do We Stop Them?

How Do People Control Us?

When others control us, it’s amazing the power one person can have over another. What do we do when we find ourselves in a position of being controlled by others? When others control us, they can exercise certain levels of power over another’s emotional well being. Others control us through money, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation…