Category Archives: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS

Domestic/intimate partner violence, child abuse, sexual abuse/assault-recognizing, evaluating, empowering and escaping

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN BELL, FLORIDA

Grandfather kills daughter, 6 grandchildren, then himself

Just outside the middle of nowhere there has been domestic violence in Bell, Florida. Few even know Bell, Florida exists. The total population is 350, about as many who would be in an average-sized church sanctuary this Sunday. Now the entire nation is aware of a tiny town in Florida called Bell. You expect to…

RAY RICE-ASKING FOR PRIVACY

Janay and Ray Rice media interview

Janay Rice, wife of Ray Rice, posted on her social network, asking for privacy as they deal with the domestic violence that took place in an elevator months ago. While I fully understand that they do need a modicum of personal privacy during this time, a measure of reality came to me. Recently, I personally…

The NFL, Ray Rice and Domestic Violence

JUST DO IT?

The entire nation is abuzz with the news reports regarding Ray Rice and domestic violence. Only days after Ray Rice was called on the carpet for punching out his fiancée, Janay Palmer (now Rice), another NFL player, Ray McDonald, was arrested for domestic violence. The Ray Rice and domestic violence incident had occurred months prior,…

Are There Levels Of Domestic Violence

picture-purple minion alive

Sometimes both those who are knowledgeable of domestic violence and those who still have a lot to learn about the subject contemplate if there are various levels of domestic violence. For a long time I actually vacillated between confusion and guilt. I was verbally abused. I was emotionally abused. Later, I was grabbed by my…

Domestic Violence: Why Doesn’t She Leave?

Time to leave?

Sometimes I feel we have belabored the question, “Why doesn’t she leave?” But, it just seems this question will never go away. Quite personally, I find myself being annoyed and put off by the fact it is still asked so frequently, especially by those who have very little if any understanding of domestic violence. Victims…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

It was an accident

Given enough time, a victim of domestic violence is almost certain to hear, “It was an accident.” That could easily be part of the honeymoon phase that occurs in abusive relationships and domestic violence. Most of us know by now that domestic violence is truly a matter of power and control, rather than anger management….

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – SHE GOT WHAT SHE DESERVED

Did she get what she deserved?

During a conversation earlier this week, I was shocked and amazed to hear another person make the statement, “She just got what she deserved. She should have kept her legs closed.” At the time, we were discussing the incarceration of someone who had been found guilty of the double murder of his wife and her…

A Rise in Domestic Violence During the Holidays

Santa knows DV doesn't take a holiday.

It’s difficult to celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa knowing there is a rise in domestic violence during the holidays. While many imagine sugar plum fairies dancing in their dreams, others are seeing stars from blows to their head. This “version” of Twas the Night Before Christmas gives us a true picture of what it’s really like to…

George Zimmerman, Domestic Violence and Guns

Headlines flashed across the nation involve George Zimmerman, domestic violence and guns. George Zimmerman has made the news once again, this time being accused of domestic violence. It is reported he held a shotgun to his girlfriend, threatened her, then forcefully threw her out of her own home. She had demanded he leave for fear…

WHY WOMEN STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

picture-women leaving2

It is perhaps the most common topic raised by those who don’t understand domestic violence – why women stay in abusive relationships. I have even heard it said, “Well, she must like it, or else she’d just leave.” Really? Who enjoys being emotionally and verbally denigrated, abused and oftentimes battered or beaten? Women stay in abusive…