Author Archives: Carolyn S. Hennecy

Carolyn S. Hennecy is an Advocate, Author, Speaker, Consultant and Trainer in the areas of Domestic Violence and Sex Abuse. She is a Designated Victim Services Practitioner through the office of the Attorney General of the State of Florida. Carolyn is certified and offers seminars, classes and CEUs for LMHC, LCSW and Marital & Family Therapists.

Are There Levels Of Domestic Violence

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Sometimes both those who are knowledgeable of domestic violence and those who still have a lot to learn about the subject contemplate if there are various levels of domestic violence. For a long time I actually vacillated between confusion and guilt. I was verbally abused. I was emotionally abused. Later, I was grabbed by my…

THROUGH THE EYES OF A VICTIM OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

Total innocence

What a cleansing to finally reach the point in your life that you find true and complete healing as a victim of child sexual abuse. It is not common for me to share this part of my story, but given things that I have heard and seen recently, I feel it is a necessary step…

Domestic Violence: Why Doesn’t She Leave?

Time to leave?

Sometimes I feel we have belabored the question, “Why doesn’t she leave?” But, it just seems this question will never go away. Quite personally, I find myself being annoyed and put off by the fact it is still asked so frequently, especially by those who have very little if any understanding of domestic violence. Victims…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

It was an accident

Given enough time, a victim of domestic violence is almost certain to hear, “It was an accident.” That could easily be part of the honeymoon phase that occurs in abusive relationships and domestic violence. Most of us know by now that domestic violence is truly a matter of power and control, rather than anger management….

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – SHE GOT WHAT SHE DESERVED

Did she get what she deserved?

During a conversation earlier this week, I was shocked and amazed to hear another person make the statement, “She just got what she deserved. She should have kept her legs closed.” At the time, we were discussing the incarceration of someone who had been found guilty of the double murder of his wife and her…

A Rise in Domestic Violence During the Holidays

Santa knows DV doesn't take a holiday.

It’s difficult to celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa knowing there is a rise in domestic violence during the holidays. While many imagine sugar plum fairies dancing in their dreams, others are seeing stars from blows to their head. This “version” of Twas the Night Before Christmas gives us a true picture of what it’s really like to…

George Zimmerman, Domestic Violence and Guns

Headlines flashed across the nation involve George Zimmerman, domestic violence and guns. George Zimmerman has made the news once again, this time being accused of domestic violence. It is reported he held a shotgun to his girlfriend, threatened her, then forcefully threw her out of her own home. She had demanded he leave for fear…

Child Sexual Abuse – Charish Periwinkle Murder

Child sexual abuse is a very tough topic for law enforcement, judiciary, attorneys, social workers and advocates. The families who are personally confronted by child sexual abuse are put into a place where they will never be the same again. Now, add to child sexual abuse ending in murder of the precious little one, and…

SEXUAL ASSAULT IN THE MILITARY-A FORMER VICTIM’S POINT OF VIEW

Ongoing sexual assault in the military of our United States? Who knew? How long has this been occurring, and what’s being done to stop it? Our nation has felt vulnerable and abused over the past weeks with the Boston Marathon bombing. Now we have breaking news that Lieutenant Colonel Jeffrey Krusinski, Chief of Sexual Assault…

WHY WOMEN STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

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It is perhaps the most common topic raised by those who don’t understand domestic violence – why women stay in abusive relationships. I have even heard it said, “Well, she must like it, or else she’d just leave.” Really? Who enjoys being emotionally and verbally denigrated, abused and oftentimes battered or beaten? Women stay in abusive…