Monthly Archives: August 2011

If a child has said they have been inappropriately touched should you ask the perpetrator about it?

A dirty secret – Who do you tell? Amazingly, the title of this post was actually a search term used to get to my blog site. I only wish I could personally speak to the person who was conducting that search, but will hope that somehow they will find this message and get some of…

Carolyn’s Story to Air on ABC Action News – 2011 Campaign

 It has been quite a journey, from a young 18-year-old bride, living through 16+ years of domestic violence, then finding a life full of hope, faith, restoration and empowerment – empowerment to reach out and help others who are being victimized today, or struggling in their attempt at becoming a survivor. ABC Action News annually produces their…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—Should I Stay for the Kids?

I’d be willing to bet my last nickel on the fact that every victim of domestic violence who had small children at the time asked themselves, “Should I stay for the kids?” We moms tend to be protective of our offspring. Ever taken on a mama hen when she’s nesting her hatchlings? Read any news…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – Where Does it Begin?

Many of us victims, former victims, struggling survivors and overcomers have at some time asked ourselves, “How did the domestic violence begin?”  I figure there are no statistics to back this up, but feel it is a dependable observation: Domestic violence, as well as spouse/intimate partner abuse starts with a word. That’s right, one word,…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—25% of all American Women?

Cut a pie in half. Now, cut each half in half. You have four portions. Place each of the three slices on a pretty china plate. But wait, what about that fourth piece of pie still in the pan, sitting all alone, surrounded by residue with nowhere to go? Pierce it a few times with…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – She had it Coming to Her

So, you don’t believe that mindset still exists, that abusers don’t still use the line, “I wouldn’t have hit her, but she had it coming.”? I recently watched a rerun of a Dr. Phil episode wherein he was interviewing a couple who were separated and dealing with purported domestic violence. The wife related she had…

Traveling in Our Destiny

Are we living with purpose? Great question, huh? But, wouldn’t it make sense to know just what our purpose is before we try to give an answer? Some are probably wondering what this has to do with our emotional wellbeing. In a word—everything. I floundered for many years, halfway knowing I had a reason for…

Counseling for Victims-Frivolous as a Manicure?

This will be a short one. I try not to write as “shooting from the hip” when an issue causes that rare occasion of the short blonde getting her blood pressure up, so I’ll try to keep it sweet and simple. When I heard about this “debate,” I had to research it before offering to…

Domestic Violence vs. God—Do We Have Spiritual Questions?

It is quickly apparent from recent search terms leading to my blog there are countless victims of domestic violence who are wrestling with their spirituality as it relates to the abuse they are enduring. Stay or leave? Guilty or not? Being punished by God? What about the children? The words “guilt” and “punish” are used…

Thank You, Casey Anthony—Now We Move On!

This will be short and to the point. I am amazed at the surge in traffic to my site and blog post during the entire Casey Anthony trial. Only a day or two after her sentencing, the numbers plummeted back to normal. I found the topic timely and pertinent to the focus of my blog,…