Monthly Archives: April 2011

Where Have I Been?

I just feel the need to touch base and send a “shout out” to all those who visit here, whether regularly or once or twice. I’m recuperating from a week in the Critical Care Unit, final diagnosis is TIA. On the mend and should be back to normal (whatever THAT is for ME!!) very shortly….

Learning From Disappointments – Self Care: Another Life Lesson

This has been a couple of weeks of major disappointments and lessons learned. I have a whole new appreciation for “self care” now, having been given an excellent opportunity to personally choose it or not. An emergency admission to the critical care unit to rule out heart attack or stroke was not the greatest way…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE—THE DANGER OF TRYING TO LEAVE

    How many women who tried to break out of an abusive relationship are lying in our cemeteries today? The danger associated with attempting to escape domestic violence is somber. A victim of domestic/intimate partner violence is at the greatest point of danger when she tries to leave. Yet, still today, victims and survivors,…

IT’S JUST A BAD TEMPER, NOT ABUSE

There is a common misconception that domestic violence is basically the result of a bad temper, or a need for some “simple anger management.” Do not be deceived. The root of domestic/intimate partner violence is the need for power and control. The more an abuser feels their power and control being threatened or usurped, the…

WOMEN WHO ABUSE MEN

Yes, I have finally decided to take on this topic. You can’t imagine the flack received by activists and advocates of domestic violence awareness, accusations of hating men or the posts on the internet skewing numbers as to the proportion of women versus men who are abused. Well, I’m sticking with the statistic that seems…

HAS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ROBBED YOU OF YOUR DREAMS?

Remember when you were a little girl, dreaming of growing up to become a princess who lived in a beautiful castle? There were the ball gowns, the diamond tiaras, the knights in shining armor… Or, perhaps your dreams took you on tours as the world’s most in-demand entertainer, standing on a stage before throngs of…

FEELING HOPELESS AS A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

The deeper a victim falls into the pit of domestic violence, the greater the battle against hopelessness becomes. You do not feel free to discuss it, for that most assuredly holds repercussions of increased abuse, whether emotional, verbal or physical. Further down into hopelessness you sink, feeling all alone in your vicious cycle. Sometimes I…

HIDING EVIDENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

WHY do victims find it necessary to cover up or make allowances for the actions of their abusers—excuses for treatment they do not deserve?   A victim rarely speaks out immediately upon their first incident of domestic/intimate partner violence. That is probably because it innocuously worked its way to such a level, with intimidating words,…

APRIL IS CHILD ABUSE AWARENESS MONTH

Why hurt the children? Do we stop to consider that verbal/emotional abuse harms children? It can cause scars that will remain within their minds and hearts for their entire lives. Calling a child “stupid” is inexcusable. Leading them to believe they are inferior or dispensable is abuse, plain and simple. While many take exception with…