Monthly Archives: March 2011

USE THE VICTIM SUPPORT PAGE

Many of you are now regular visitors here at my blog, and for that, I am grateful. It means somebody is truly interested in learning more about domestic violence—or that they need to know more about it, because they are in it. There is a lot of valuable information on the Victim Support Page of…

TAKE BACK THE NIGHT, WHEREVER YOU ARE

        Did you know that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month? I hope there is some sort of event taking place in your area, or that an agency or organization will be doing something to bring more attention to rape crisis intervention. Here in the Tampa Bay area you will have the…

When I Chose to Speak Out-Revisiting the Book

I have begun working on a second book, one providing not only answers from my own life to victims and survivors of sexual and domestic violence, but also to bring in major players in the advocacy work against domestic and sexual assault awareness as contributors. It seemed sensible to revisit one of my more successful…

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE – APPLY WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED

When it comes to domestic/intimate partner violence, spouse abuse or rape crisis intervention, there seem to be enough existing articles and theses written to paper the Grand Canyon. The information available is limitless. Not every piece substantiates others. As if that were not enough to bring confusion to us, the numbers are constantly changing. When…

SLOW DOWN­ – Anxiety and Depression Are Winning!

In recent conversations with four various people, it came to light that all four are taking medication for depression, anxiety or both. For others, it’s a simple sleeping pill to help bring the rest that doesn’t come easily, if at all. I started looking around, listening more and talking less (Yeah, what a monumental event—me,…

Domestic Violence—Just Pray Through?

  Faith is a powerful thing. It can resurrect the most dead of relationships. It can resurrect trust that has been totally annihilated. We pray in faith, believing, or else why would we pray at all? I would never intend to minimize the power of prayer or the importance of a spiritual way of life….

SELF CARE: A Necessity for a Healthier, Happier YOU

Not too long ago I heard the term, “Self Care,” and wondered if it didn’t sound a lot like “All about me.” Like most of us, it’s been engrained into my very nature to always put others ahead of myself, never think selfishly, never act or be self-centered. So, when I heard someone mention “self…

SPOUSE ABUSE—”BUT I SAID I WAS SORRY!”

  During a recent conversation about dealing with certain aspects of domestic violence, I was asked, “What do you do when the abuser says, ‘But, I told her I was sorry. She has to forgive me, it’s in the Bible’?” There was the whole concept of apology versus restitution, i.e. restoration or reinstatement. Words. They…

Victims of Domestic Violence – Do You Have a Safety Code?

  Victims of domestic violence are constantly bombarded with the question, “How do I stay safe?” Domestic violence is a prison that holds its victims behind what seem inescapable bars. Every which way a victim turns they hear, “Why don’t you just leave?” or “Well, he has been so good for over a month,” or…

DO I DARE CONFRONT MY ABUSER?

  A victim thinks, “Here I am, caught in the snare of domestic violence, wondering how I can possibly put an end to all this horror. Do I dare confront my abuser?” There are three definitive answers, and they are “Yes,” “No,” and “Not right now.” But put yourself in the place of the victim….